Why we aren't having a traditional wedding

I've known for a long time that I wouldn't want a traditional wedding and I knew that if Josh ever proposed he'd be on the same page. It's just not us. Well when Josh gave me the shock of my life and did actually propose after 11 years it became even clearer to us that we didn't want a traditional wedding.

Now we're not doing anything wild and crazy because lets be frank that would cost a lot of money and not spending a lot of money on this wedding is actually something that's quite important to us. We're not flashy kind of people and neither of us can imagine anything worse than spending thousands of pounds on what is essentially a show for other people. We want the day to be for us and to be special to us and we don't need to spend a lot of money to make that happen. 

We've said from the start we just want to be married to each other, we don't need all the flashy things that go alongside it. So there's a lot of things that you'd expect to see at a wedding that aren't happening at ours. I think I'm going to write a list at some point in another post of all the wedding traditions we aren't sticking to but essentially it boils down to the fact that we're getting married for us and no one else. Of course they'll be cute decorations and invites and save the dates because I'm actually finding all that stuff quite fun but there's lots of stuff we won't be doing too.

A quick search around tells me that the average wedding in the U.K. now costs anything between £17,000 and £33,000 and that absolutely blows my mind. I can assure you that we aren't even spending anywhere near half of the lower end of the scale on our wedding. If people are interested a may do a whole blog posts once we've spent up on the wedding discussing a total. I know money is a touchy subject sometimes but those figures above are terrifying and I can see how that would easily put off couples in the same frame of mind as Josh and I because it honestly put me off when I first started pricing things up. 

Of course not having a traditional wedding isn't all about money because I can hand on heart say even if I had that sort of money to spend I still wouldn't be doing a lot of the traditional things. We're not a very traditional sort of couple. We'll have been together 12 years when we get married, we've nothing to prove and no one to show off too. We'll be happy just being husband and wife. The way we're looking at it is we shouldn't just do something because that's what other people expect from weddings 

We might sound like absolute wedding Scrooges to some people but in the end we're going to end up with the wedding we want and that's what will make it the perfect day, not tradition and not money but something we want that we've put our heart and soul into and finally becoming Mr and Mrs G. And that's why our wedding will be our dream wedding because we're doing exactly what we want!

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